Verbal Bullying means big mouths and big mouths can kill
This will not be my most popular post. That is my disclaimer. However, I have been asked to give a presentation on modern day ‘verbal bullying’.
As a mom, psychologist, teacher, and HUMAN being, I abhor slang terms for groups of people. Much soap has been utilized in my house with three kids that think it is cute to say ‘cool’ words in describing people. Clean mouths create clean morals… 😉 (You can quote me on this).
Many fights, conflicts, and deaths, have been the result of our too carefree mouths. I teach a Cultural Diversity Class at a university, and while I am the instructor, I learn too many terms for groups that I wish I didn’t know. However, you do have to acknowledge before you can correct. You need to make a stance in which the cool words are not okay in your family…. Furthermore, if you explain why they are not okay, then an excellent conversation comes to pass on origination and such… you’re on your own on this one.
Interestingly enough, most people don’t feel that the ‘names’ given to groups are demeaning and/or stereotypical. I have worked too hard on raising my kids to respect everyone, for some highschooler to think it’s cute to nickname a kid based on appearance. I apologize in advance if some of the terms are hurtful, but let’s call it what it is in an attempt to change it.
I have heard for Mexican Americans: Spic, wetback, beaners, and much more…
African Americans: Ni**er, monkeys, shines, and again… much more…
Muslim Americans: Rag head, camel jockeys, sand ni**ers…’ ummm, and again, much more… repeat….
How far could we go on this? The point is, there are a multitude of inappropriate names that are far too spoken in our life. This isn’t always culturally based, but often thematic.
My issue of late is RETARD…. Do you know what retarded means? adjective /riˈtärdid/ Less advanced in mental, physical, or social development than is usual for one’s age —- specifically:
In describing an individual that is ‘retarded’, it means this individual knows far less than their average counterparts, it means this person is unable to function at the same average intellect of peers…, plus more….
But, what it does not mean is STUPID…. If you want to ever fight me, tell me someone is retarded. If you are my children, and you want to be grounded for a month, tell me that an idea is retarded. If there is a platform that I want to work, this is it. Retarded, is not to be used as an adjective to define stupid human behavior… neither is gay, ghetto, or chink…..
If you or I hear this, then I challenge us all to step back and correct the person, and defend the group.
Your thoughts, or experiences with verbal bullying, would be most welcome in the comment section.