The Importance of Self Esteem
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Do you look in the mirror every morning and say to your reflection “I like me because I am attractive?” Do you feel that this is your best trait? If you do, then you are in for a world of hurt as you age. Eventually you will start to not like your own reflection. When this eventually happens, chances are you will start down the road of depression and self loathing.
There are many people who have never looked in the mirror and liked the reflection looking back at them. That’s completely ok if you are one of those people. I am one of those people. I was smart enough as a teenager to realize that I will probably never like what I see in the mirror. I decided then that I was going to strive to be the type of person I can be proud of. I wanted to look in the mirror and like the type of person staring back at me.
I have found that people who are less concerned with what they look like tend to be more concerned with how they treat others. They want to feel good by knowing they are a good person, instead of being a good-looking person. This type of self-esteem will never fade and can possibly grow as these people age; the more good they do in their lives the stronger their self-esteem becomes.
Don’t misunderstand me. I am not trying to imply that all attractive people are mean, can’t do good deeds, or help others. This is not true at all. There are many people who not only believe they are attractive but who also have good hearts and do lots of good in the world. They probably won’t fall into depression or self loathing as they age. This is because they are proud of who they are and what they look like.
If you believe you are attractive and you strive to be a better person every day of your life. You have the best of both worlds. You should consider yourself to be very lucky. Not everyone is capable of being able to do both. You are part of a very small group of people. You are part of a group of people who are not only good-looking but good to other people.
If you look in the mirror and hate the reflection you see looking back at you. There is still hope. I don’t recommend ever hating what you look like. You can be indifferent to it. That’s OK, but hating what you look like is never OK. You must come to terms with what you look like and learn to at least be indifferent to it. You should take pride in your appearance. This is not the same as thinking you are attractive. You can try to stay healthy and take pride in how you dress and groom yourself without liking what you look like. That I do recommend. You should also try to help other people every chance you get. You should treat everyone with respect and dignity. This alone will make you feel wonderful and will translate into a great internal self-esteem. No one can take this type of self-esteem away from you and you will have it as long as you do right by others. This can make you a very emotionally strong person.
If you love how you look, but are obvious to the feelings of others. If you believe that your feelings are all that matters and not the feelings of others. If you don’t treat others the way you would want to be treated. If you think putting others down builds your self-esteem. You are in for a rude awakening one day. At some point you are going to wake up and discover that you have aged and you won’t feel attractive anymore. Once this happens, odds are depression and self loathing will set in. At this point you will have a choice. You can continue down the road of depression and self loathing or you can start to build your internal self-esteem. This will involve changing much of your life and how you treat other people. You will need to start treating others with kindness, respect and help others whenever you can. Doing this will give you a sense of pride and accomplishment. This will grow on itself and soon you won’t care that you have aged. You will be proud of the person you have become.
I always suggest being good to others. Treat people with kindness and respect, even people who are serving you in retail or restaurants. You will be amazed at how good this can make you feel. You will also love how you will feel when you know that you are one of the good people out there. No one and no amount of aging can every take that feeling away from you. Only you and your actions can do it. This type of self-esteem is the most positive and strongest of them all. Please embrace it, let it grow in you, and teach others. By doing this we can make our community, country and the world a better place.
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Self-esteem is the pride that a man has in himself or herself. A person with high self-esteem feels rewarding (great and capable). Individuals with reduced self-esteem believe they are not worth-while and that what they do is not important to the others or to themselves.
And don’t forget – Love yourself, that’s a goal that once you’ve made it, you’ll retain it forever. It’s not only Self Esteem, but the building blocks for solid Self Confidence – which then gives you the opportunity to serve others, exuding the aura of a beautiful person regardless of how you look at yourself in the mirror.
Definitely an article to build a ‘series’ on! Thanks!
What a very nice article. I’m proud of you and your understanding of who you are & who you are not. Good job.
Thanks everyone for the positive feedback. I really appreciate it.
For a brief moment I thought I was reading something from Carol, but no, someone new. Welcome. I love this place and I can tell by what you write that you will fit in nicely. Lovely article.
This was a beautiful lesson learned John. Thanks.
Oh, a minor observation: “If you love how you look, but are OBVIOUS to the feelings of others.”
Should this be oblivious?
I’ve always thought the same thing, but I’ve never heard it put so eloquently.
I choked up reading it.
What a thoughtful little piece, and one with lessons that will stay with me for years. You have allowed me to identify personalities in my life and to take a long look at mine. Thanks so much for that.
Good post John. I have always figured that I was stuck with my looks so I might as well get used to them. After many years with them I have kinda gotten used to them.
Nice post, John. Right in line with my philosophies. I have been fortunate to learn many similar lessons from my grandfather many years ago and in fact, have posted many on this site. One you might enjoy (because the thoughts support your post) is called an Old Man’s Message.
Thanks for the post.