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If a person cannot depend on their friends when they are about to hit rock bottom or are having a hard time then when can they? Although having an addict as a friend can be a chore, it is important to not shun them because you don’t agree with their life choices. Distancing yourself might allow a person to worsen extensively without anyone knowing as many people do not want a drug addict in their life. With this being said, do not enable this friend by allowing them to use around you or anything of that nature.
It can be difficult for a recovering addict to be in certain situations especially at the beginning. This could be a friend who has a drinking problem not able to go out to a bar and just have waters. They will have to face this eventually but make sure that you leave the situation if they are having too hard of a time. Having a drug free home for a friend to stay while they get on their feet isn’t for everyone. If you are single with an extra bedroom then you should offer it. Having a situation where substance abuse isn’t prevalent can help in the beginning of recovery.
If a friend is spending a large portion of their money on drugs or alcohol then the chances are they will ask you for a loan at some point or another. What you can do is pay the bill they say the loan is for and not directly support their habit. Do not routinely loan them money especially if they are not paying it back. It shouldn’t be something that you bring up each time you see them because this can lead to them distancing themselves from you. Mentioning that you are worried could eventually lead them to ask you to help them or find them help.
This can cause your friend to go crazy on you as the people they try to hide their problem from the most in some cases is their family. There are times when the family will already know that there is a problem but there are others where it might come as a shock. The family has the most leverage in helping a person get help as they are the closest. Do not let their family know by surprise when your friend is around because this might get confrontational.
Being the bad guy and enforcer of the sobriety of your friend is never an easy task as it can feel like a constant battle. Whether you have to buy drug tests in bulk to make sure they are staying clean or you have to change your lifestyle to help keep them sober, it is well worth it to have a healthy friend. You can help them work on being a happy and healthy friend as many people are depressed at the beginning of their recovery.
Having a friend going through a substance abuse problem isn’t easy for you or them. Remember that as they could be hurting and that is the reason they turned to drugs or alcohol. When in doubt call a professional to see what they would recommend doing it. You don’t have to help your friend alone, others can help you.