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If you’re new to the dating scene or you went out on a date for the last time in 2002, the following guide will acquaint you with some brand new skills and essentials you have to focus on in order to benefit from a positive, fulfilling experience.
In the past, dating was often about going to a club and finding someone you like or chatting up a girl in the university library/cafeteria. Today, the rules of the game have changed due to texting and dating apps (DoULike is just one of the popular choices that come to mind).
Recent studies suggest that online dating is the second most popular way for heterosexual couples to meet today. What’s even more impressive is the fact that it is the one most popular way for LGBT couples to come together.
If you’re not doing online dating, you’re missing on a massive chance to connect with interesting and dateable people.
Successful online dating necessitates good communication through text and chat. This indirect communication can be difficult because you don’t have context, intonation or body language to give you additional information.
Do experiment with online dating and see how you feel about texting someone, having video chats or long phone conversations. All of these will usually take place before a person decides if they want to meet you in real life.
Compromise is generally considered the building block of successful relationships. In the past, couples were pushed to internalize a partner’s point of view and to make amends. While this is still very, very important, assertiveness and setting boundaries also happen to be crucial.
It’s ok to let a potential partner know what you want and what you’re hoping to achieve. Being this direct early on in the communication will get you on the same page or simply prevent the waste of time if you’re incompatible.
Speaking up for yourself and what you believe in isn’t the same as bulldozing your partner’s needs and preferences. It simply entails knowing what’s required to give you happiness and saying that out loud. Assertiveness also falls under the communication umbrella and you need to become more outspoken right now!
Various surveys over the years have established time and time again that millennials are the most stressed-out generation. They live in such a dynamic, cutthroat world that they’re subjected to a lot more pressure than baby boomers.
Hence, effective stress management has become a needed skill for relationship development.
Stress and everyday annoyances can quickly kill romance and feelings of togetherness. Most of us are also guilty of taking frustrations out on the people we love the most. To avoid hurt, pain and confusing situations, you should work on a healthy and productive stress management approach.
While emotional intelligence has been universally important for relationship development throughout human history, its importance has grown to be even stronger in the past few decades.
The indirect communication already mentioned is one of the main reasons why people need to sharpen their emotional intelligence acumen.
Today, we tend to be somewhat reserved. Communication goes slow and determining whether someone is in it for the long run can be challenging in the beginning. Emotional intelligence and empathy will give you a much better idea about where others stand and how you should be approaching them.
While emotional intelligence is a given, there are strategies that will make you more receptive. Processing feelings, understanding past patterns and most importantly – being patient and forgiving can make people open up and seek a higher level of intimacy with you.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, sitting on your butt and waiting for the perfect partner to just knock on your door will keep you single for a long, long time.
A passive approach towards relationship establishment doesn’t work. Forget about old-school rules. You don’t need to await him to form the primary move. If you would like something, leave there and obtain it. Most men will respond positively to such an approach (and let’s face it – what do you have to lose)?
Dating and relationship establishment today are both colorful and diversified. There are many opportunities and new technologies to utilize. These open up an entire world but also create some specific challenges. If you have a good idea about these limitations of contemporary dating, you can easily develop the skills required to compensate for the missing parts.
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