Looking Back At The Bobbitts 25 Years Later

by Gregory B. Gonzalez

Last night, I was watching 20/20, don’t ask me why. They were covering the 25th anniversary of the night John Wayne Bobbitt had his penis cut off by his then wife, Lorena. I mean, living through it was bad enough the first time, do we really need to revisit it, for crying out loud?

The more of it I saw, the more sympathy I felt for the victim. In a certain light, you could make comparisons to the Greek tragedy of Medea, but at least she had the decency to only kill her husband Jason’s new wife and their children.

Bobbitt may have been something of a dick, (no pun intended,) but did he really deserve to be mutilated? I guess it depends on what set of genitals you possess. Harder if you have both. I guess Lorena could be seen as a hero and an inspiration in the era of #MeToo, but seriously, isn’t this taking things a little bit too far?

Speaking as someone who was married to a woman who was a bit on the… tempestuous side of the spectrum, (just short of psychotic and a tiny bit of distance from homicidal,) I can honestly say that when I look back on those days, I’m surprised I never got neutered, (though I think it sometimes  might have crossed my ex-wife’s mind.) Thank Heaven I’m a light sleeper.

Lest anyone think I was abusive to my ex like Bobbitt supposedly was, I wasn’t. But I know what it was like being married to a woman who wanted more than I can give and would do anything to go about getting it. I understand what it does to you; the anger, frustration, and resentment- it changes and twists you into a thing you no longer recognize or ever wanted to be.

In my case, I withdrew from the world and my wife. In Bobbitt’s, it manifested into alcoholism and alleged physical and sexual abuse. That said, do I believe JWB assaulted Lorena? I know everyone says, ‘the woman must be believed’, but I tend to take such things with a grain of salt unless there’s a preponderance of evidence against the accused. Admitting that probably won’t win me any points with my female readers, but you know me, honest to a fault. It doesn’t mean I disbelieve a woman’s accusations, it just means I reserve judgment until I have all or most of the facts.

In the case of Lorena Bobbitt, considering she was just as abusive as her husband and embezzled seven grand from her boss and best friend, I have my doubts. Does that mean I think she’s full of shit? Not exactly, though I think there’s more to the story than she’s telling.

For instance, John Wayne Bobbitt had a friend staying with them that night. If John assaulted her, then why didn’t the friend take notice of it? He obviously took note of the bloody mess that was left after Lorena severed her husband’s penis, but nothing about a sexual assault? I find that to be highly unlikely.

Regardless, what happened, happened. And here we are, twenty-five years later, still talking about it. Not to sound callous, but nobody cares. JWB still has his penis, and he’s moved on with his life. We should, too.

If there’s any takeaway from this story, it’s that you have to look beyond the sensationalism and delve deeper into the cause of happenings such as this. I don’t know what truly went on between the Bobbitts that night, but I do know that it resonates still in that women are still portrayed as both victim and tempter. It has to stop.

Women have proven time and again that they are far from being ‘the weaker sex’, and it’s time we stopped regarding them as such. They are every bit as equal to men, and they don’t need a penis to prove it.

I guess some women might see Lorena Bobbitt as a hero, but I don’t. I think she’s a bit of a manipulator, if truth be told. If you think I sympathize with her ex-husband, I don’t. In fact, I think they deserve each other.

Am I the only one?

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5 Responses to Looking Back At The Bobbitts 25 Years Later

  1. Joe Hagstrom Reply

    January 6, 2019 at 9:54 am

    Sadly for the people that come into contact with Mr. Bobbitt, they will be subject to need of older people to show us their scars.

  2. Glenn R. Geist Reply

    January 6, 2019 at 10:22 am

    Every time I hear that “women must be believed” trope, I think of Sarah Huckabee.

    Just desserts or not, vigilante justice is rightly illegal.

  3. Timmy Mahoney Reply

    January 6, 2019 at 1:35 pm

    She’s one crazy bitch, and he was a nasty piece of work. Birds of a feather.

  4. Neil Bamforth Reply

    January 7, 2019 at 8:43 am

    I reMEMBER that! 😂 Didn’t she throw it out the bedroom window?

  5. Bill Formby Reply

    January 7, 2019 at 11:10 am

    Form what I remember of that particular case, JWB had been drinking a bit and their was some disagreement over whether he should have the desired sexual rights as the Husband and he he did in fact rape Lorena, However, come morning he found himself bound to bed whilst she retrieved a large knife from the kitchen and cut it off and toss it out the window. JWB retrieved the severed part and went to the Hospital where they reconnected it. This was a bit different from a case in Alaska where a man was forcing his wife to perform oral sex on him and she bit it off and threw it away.

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